Take Steps Towards Getting What You Want In 2016
The beginning of the year is a classic time for people to re-evaluate their lives and make big changes. But how do we go from wanting something to getting it? Here are some ways that you can be proactive in getting what you want. Know what you want
It may sound obvious, but you need to focus in on your goals or you’ll lose track of what you’re aiming for in life. For example, it’s not good enough to say you want to run your own company. You need to flesh out that dream a little so that you can really begin to identify with it.
Visualisation is a helpful tool for this. Imagine what your flourishing business will look like in three years’ time - how will it look, where will it be, how will it affect other people’s lives. Having a detailed picture of what you want will help you reach your goal. You’ll then be able to recognise when something you encounter along the way will take you closer to your dream, or distract you from it.
Like the Butterfly Effect, each small action can have affect your goals
In order to move from knowing what you want to getting what you want you need to take action. This isn’t always easy to start with, but even a small step in the right direction will make a difference. For example, if you want to get a promotion at work, there’s no point just hoping it will happen. Tell your manager you’re looking to progress your career, ask them what you need to do in order to increase your chances for a promotion. Only when people know your desires can they help you achieve them.
Even the smallest step you take towards your goal will be significant, and action will also help you shed fears you have about making change as well as building your self-confidence. Staying stuck in a rut, on the other hand, will only serve to make you question your ability to achieve what you want and undermine your confidence.
Accept that motivation levels vary
Sometimes when you set yourself a goal to achieve, you have the right intention but you’ll find that you’re not always motivated to carry a plan through. That’s because our levels of motivation will vary from day to day, sometimes even from hour to hour. For example, if we say we’ll get fit by going to the gym every other day, and you then skip a day because you don’t feel like going, then you might end up giving up on the whole project. When you’re faced with a lack of motivation to do something, have an easier alternative that still pushes you towards the same goal. For instance, if you can’t face the gym, go for a brisk walk instead and go back to the gym the next day.
Stay focused on today
It’s sometimes easy to look forward to what you want in the future and not enjoy the present moment. But that’s no way to live. Yes, have ambitions and plans for the future, but don’t see today simply as a way of getting to tomorrow. One way to make the most of now, rather than putting too much focus on what’s already been and gone, and what might happen tomorrow, is to practice mindfulness by developing a greater awareness of your thoughts and feelings and the effect they have on you.
Mindfulness can help you in a number of ways. It can reduce stress and anxiety, it can lift your mood and help you feel in control of your existence. It can also help to declutter your mind so that you can sleep better.
Some people find that meditation is a good tool for achieving mindfulness, while others use yoga or tai chi. What all these activities do is encourage the participant to concentrate on their breathing and their body in order to clear their mind. Thoughts will still come to you, but you will learn to observe those thoughts rather than do battle with them.
Through mindfulness, with less focus on anxieties, you will be better placed to enjoy the current moment as you continue on your path to getting what you want in life.